What is beauty, after all?
Or why are you not going to please everybody, no matter how hard you try
I am not going to lie by telling you that everybody in the world is going to love you just the way you are. In fact, people can actually be quite rude to those who are different from the norm imposed by some, but I am here to tell you that, believe it or not, you are going to survive.
The importance of difference
The world would be a very boring and plain site if everybody acted, dressed, and said the same things. There would be no place for creativity of any kind, as everything would be done in the same way. Think about a clothing store. What would it be of it if every blouse, shoe, and dress looked exactly the same way? What makes any piece of clothing stand out is its color, shape, and kind of fabric. Just as every human being stands out thanks to those little things that differentiate them from the others.
No absolute beauty
I guess that some of us will never understand why is there so much hate towards persons who don’t fit a hegemonic ideal of beauty. Throw story, and across different cultures, there have been different standards concerning beauty. What we see as beautiful is determined by a wide range of factors, that go from experiences, patterns of thought, and even the way our parents raised us. So, what is the point of hating someone, only because they don't look the way you suppose people should? So, please, let’s make an effort just to try to respect others.
Stronger than hate
I hate to be that party-popper, but in order to survive, you need to have thick skin. In order to develop it, you need to remember that you are stronger than any poisoned words a hater might throw your way. Whatever another person says about you, doesn’t define what you are, but what they are. So, remember that they know nothing about you, and the only one who has any power over your life is, you guessed it, yourself.
Keep it healthy
If some of these persons you get some nasty criticizing from, often use your health state to attack you, don’t hesitate in going to a doctor to get a check-up. Having ab hegemonic appearance doesn’t matter as much as your health does. So, don’t be afraid. Assuring with some professional help that you are nice and healthy, can do wonders for your mental health.
Look for help
If no matter how hard you try, you are still feeling very sad about some bitter comments about your body, there is nothing wrong with looking for some professional help. Talking with somebody outside your family and friends circle can help to punt things into perspective.
