How Do I Start to Let Go?
Some starter points
I think a good number of us would like to be able to change the course of our lives without having to leave behind all those things that made us happy in other stages of our lives.
Who wouldn’t want some of the financial independence of being an adult, coupled with the joy and freedom of expression of childhood?
But the truth is that in order to continue moving forward in life, many times we have to leave behind things that once meant the world to us.
Is it easy to leave behind something we love?
No. In fact, knowing when we should let go of a person, an action or a feeling that we cling to for a long time of our lives, is one of the most difficult things for any human being. In theory it should be very easy to let go of what no longer has a place in our lives, but there are feelings that complicate it, such as fear and dependency.
What do I no longer need?
This is the initial question you need to answer in order to know what you have to let go of. Think about whether that thing you cling to so much still has a place in your life. Does it bring you any real benefit? Or do you just cling to that thing out of dependency or habit. Don’t be afraid to be brutally honest when answering yourself. You deserve to leave room in your life for better things, that make you grow as a human being.
Regarding people…
The same applies with people. Maybe you keep talking to your ex, hoping that things between you will go back to the same as before. Or maybe you keep talking to friends who have toxic attitudes, just because you’re afraid of being alone. In those cases you have to remember that neither love nor friendship hurts, and that you do not deserve to give time in your life to what hurts you.
I think I’m afraid of emptiness.
There is nothing wrong with it. In fact, it is a natural human feeling to be a little apprehensive about looking into your soul. But in a world where we are always surrounded by people, noise and other people, there is nothing wrong with a little silence and emptiness. If you don’t put too much pressure on yourself, once you let go of what doesn’t contribute anything to your existence, you will see that better things will come into your life, because you will begin to better discern what suits you from what doesn’t.
I can’t tell what to let go
Take your time. Everyone lives things in a different way, so there is no way of knowing how long it will take you to decide that something no longer has a place in your life. And once you do, it’s not going to be easy. You may cry several times as you walk away from that person or that material possession, but later, you will understand that it is the best thing you could do. Think about what really works for you right now. Don’t go too far into the future, because the present is all we have.
What if I already took several things out of my life?
If you already took several things out of your life, now give yourself time to reorganize yourself. Take a breath and place your remaining feelings or material possessions (as the case may be) in places that allow the entry, when the time is right, of things that give light to your life. Don’t be in a hurry to fill the available space with the first thing you come across. You will know what is best for you.
